For me, the constant references to alcohol and Al-Anon grated on me, as did mentions of her religious persuasion.

Whatever the answer, my New Year's Resolution is to stop worrying about other people and learn to love and accept myself. Next, the codependent tries to figure out how to cope with a situation that is not their fault and they have no control over. I think the bok is great and recommend it to anyone who is down in life and having issues with family and/or friends. I thought I knew everything there was to know about co-dependency, but this book took it above and beyond my prior misconceptions. The discussion in each chapter can be reduced to something like this: "This is a behaviour you do, which causes a lot of pain to you and others.

Melody's compassionate and insightful look into co-dependency -- the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another -- struck a universal chord among families struggling with a loved one's addiction.

It is possible to communicate both of these at the same time - many people manage it easily and respectfully.Beattie recounts how, when she was leading family support groups, she’d ask the members what they were feeling.

Bet apie tai ir būtų įdomu paskaityti - kaip mokytis tą kontrolę paleisti, kaip mokytis nesinervuoti vien nuo minties, kad kažkokios aukštesnės jėgos tave valdo. I think the title of this book should have reflected the fact it was primarily geared towards alcoholics and/or children of alcoholics. I figured it would be a good idea to know what they're reading, especially since these clients regard it so highly but seem to be making little progress.But there are also a lot of holes and incredible overemphasis on alcoholism and 12 Step program dogma, which I happen to feel strongly contain elements that are damaging and limiting in their approach and perspective.

These reactions are most likely learned in response to stress – for instance, the constant uncertainty of living with an alcoholic.Kaip gelbėtojo, persekiotojo ir aukos vaidmenys susiję viens su kitu ir nuolat keičiasi, tu gelbsti kitą, tada pradedi jaustis auka, tada imi persekioti tą žmogų, tada jis tampa auka, tada tu jį gelbsti. Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another— has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Nėra jis labai blogas, visur eina suprast apie ką kalbama, bet vietomis smarkiai nesušukuotas / nedaredaguotas. Beattie breaks down unnoticed learned behavior that's passed down through generations, behaviors that are often a result of living with an alcoholic parent or person with dysfunctional coping mechanisms.